Wednesday, October 31, 2012

A Vision for Your Marriage

This week at Centreville Baptist Church we finished "Marriage Matters," a two-week teaching series on marriage.

We looked at how to craft a vision for our marriages together with our spouse.  We focused mostly on how to intentionally communicate with each other about the most important issues in our marriage.

This was particularly fun for me because I was able to share a tool that Rachel and I use every week to strengthen our intimacy, stay on target with our vision and intentionally communicate with each other.

We call it "Marriage Mondays" and it has absolutely made the difference in our marriage.  Marriage Monday is just five questions that we ask each other each Monday night.  Nothing complicated.  Just five simple questions that keep us connected and help us grow in our marriage more than anything else we do.

In this second part of the series I walk you through the process step-by-step, and I hope it will be a tool you can use in your marriage as well.  You can view the message below:



Sunday, October 28, 2012 We finish our series on marriage at cbc by looking at how to form a vision for our marriage.

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Marriage Counseling Resources

One thing that has become abundantly clear to me as I've worked through teaching this series on marriage is that there is a tremendous about of pain in our marriages.  This is not just an issue for our particular church, but in every church.

Sometimes the level of hurt and pain, whether from past abuse or present dysfunction, grows to the level that we need to seek professional help.  We need someone who can help us see what we are not seeing and help us get to the root of the problem so we can begin to experience healing.

I consulted with a trusted friend of mine who is a Licensed Professional Counselor with years of experience counseling people from all walks of life.  He gave me a list of trusted, Christian counselors in the Northern Virginia area.

I want to make this list available to you so that you can begin to seek healing for your marriage.  

Saturday, October 27, 2012

The Gospel & Your Marriage

Last week at Centreville Baptist Church we began a two-week series on marriage called "Marriage Matters."  I talked about how important it is in every marriage to have a vision.  To know where you are going as a couple.

Most couples I talk to have given little thought to what they want their marriage to look like, what direction they want to go, or where they want to be in five years.


The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about planning and considering the future.  About how our present decisions affect us years to come.  Marriages are no different.  For us to have the kind of marriages that fulfill a greater purpose than us, we have to be intentional about it now.  Great marriages don't happen by accident.

In this series we focus on two major questions:
1) What is God's vision for every Christian marriage?
2) In light of God's vision, how do we pursue a specific vision for our marriage?

In week one we examine the Scriptures to find out what God's vision is for all Christian marriages.  You can see that video below.  

Next week we'll look very practically at how we can work together as a couple to craft a specific vision for our marriage.  If you're in the Northern Virginia area I'd love to to see you there this Sunday morning at 9:15 or 11:00 AM.  You can find directions here.


Sunday, Oct 21, 2012 We talk at CBC about how to align our vision with God's for our marriage.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

This Fall at XLM

We've got a lot going on this Fall at XLM!  Fall Retreat was awesome, but there is more coming up!  Small Groups are up and running, our Wednesday night middle school group is off to a great start, and we've got some great things planned for our youth room design. Check out this video for details and to see what's coming in the Fall...



Sunday, Sept 16, 2012 This week at XLM we talk about what's coming for the Fall.

Friday, October 5, 2012

Moving into the New Building

Our church just completed a building project and we are so excited to be moved in!   In short, we built an 1,100 seat worship center, a coffee area we call, "Connections," a bookstore, a large foyer, and a basement that has nine large community rooms and our worship and arts ministry suite.

I was particularly excited about the building finally opening because it has been SO much fun seeing it being built every day as I work at the church.  It was also a lot of work for us as a staff (FUN, but a LOT of work).  We had "building readiness meetings" every week where we combed through a spreadsheet that ended up having hundreds of items on it that we covered. 

It was a great time of coming together as a team and seeing a project through.  And on opening day, wow!  Nearly 2,000 people came between two services.  So much fun.  Here are some pictures...

New Worship Center ready for Opening Day!

"Connections" almost ready for Opening day

First service on Opening day

Opening Day first service

Opening Day was so exciting!  Lobby was full.

People enjoying "Connections"  The Bookstore is in the room on the left

Worship on Opening Day

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

XLM Student Sunday at CBC

Our student ministry was given a unique opportunity as we closed out our summer programs in August.  We took over all three main worship services on a Sunday morning at CBC.  I was so proud of our students.  They did everything... greeted people as they came in, ushered people to their seats, our student band led in worship and one of our students, Drew Brickwedde, preached.

This was an idea that was birthed from some of our students who wanted the church to see the amazing things God was doing in our group.  It was an awesome morning, and I believe our church was able to see our students at their best.  


Here is the video from the morning.  You'll see Drew Brickwedde preaching and then I'll give some closing remarks.



Sunday, August 26, 2012 Drew Brickwedde speaks at our first annual XLM Student Ministry Sunday at CBC.